People often turn to drugs or alcohol in an effort to numb the pain caused by traumatic experiences.
Maybe they’ve suffered verbal or sexual abuse as a child. Maybe they’ve experienced a natural disaster. Maybe they lost a loved one suddenly.
Divorce can also be an incredibly stressful situation that can lead to substance abuse.
But what if the divorce comes after recovery from an addiction to drugs or alcohol? How can those recovering from addiction deal with the pain of divorce even after they’ve had to work through substance use disorder once before?
Many divorces stem from the abuse of drugs or alcohol by a spouse. In fact, addiction and divorce can be related to one another. Addiction can wreak havoc on a marriage, and the sober spouse may be so fed up with the abuse that divorce is imminent.
When Divorce Happens During or After Rehab
Even when the spouse who suffers from addiction agrees to enter drug rehab, divorce may still be a reality despite their best efforts. In fact, sometimes those in recovery are shocked to discover that their relationship with their spouse has been damaged beyond repair and divorce is now imminent, despite the fact that they’ve stopped using their substance of choice.
It can be extremely disappointing and even devastating find out that even after getting sober, major issues can still arise, including divorce. The question is, how can you deal with the stress of divorce and still maintain sobriety over the long haul?
Many people in recovery from substance use disorder may experience a setback as a result of divorce, reaching for their substance of choice in an attempt to drown out their sorrows stemming from the major life event.
Anyone would feel the pain associated with divorce, but perhaps especially those who have just completed rehab and fought hard to work through addiction. In fact, the feeling of failure as a result of divorce can be much more detrimental to those who have a history of addiction.
Staying Sober Despite Bad Days
Many people who have successfully completed rehab may be unpleasantly surprised at the fact that they’re not immune to bad days or negative situations. Despite their success in rehab, bad situations can and do occur, and divorce may be one of them.
If you’re currently in rehab or have recently completed a drug rehab program and are now facing divorce, it’s important to remain connected to your support counselors and groups to help you maintain your sobriety.
Have a plan in place for coping with divorce in a constructive manner. Don’t stop attending meetings and maintain regular communication with your 12-step sponsor if you have one.
Taking things one day at a time can be incredibly helpful when you face divorce or any stressful situation. You’ve already come so far with your recovery, and if you adhere to the behaviors that you’ve learned and that got you to stop using, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to find the light at the end of the tunnel and make it through to a healthy, productive, substance-free life, whether or not you remain married.
No matter what you’re dealing with, there’s no reason for you to have to face it on your own because of the availability of Colorado addiction treatment resources.
Contact The Recovery Village Palmer Lake to learn more about support during and after rehab.